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Secret Santa rules, variations and budget

Secret Santa is easy to explain: everyone draws a name and gives a gift to exactly that person, usually without them knowing who it came from. For it to work in a group, a few clear agreements help.

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The basic rules

  1. Everyone who joins goes into the hat.
  2. Each person draws one name. Draw yourself, and the slip goes back in for a redraw.
  3. Who you drew stays secret.
  4. The group agrees on a budget and a date for the gift exchange.
  5. The group decides in advance whether the givers are revealed at the exchange.

How much should a Secret Santa gift cost?

At work, $15 to $25 is common; among friends or in the family, $25 to $50. More important than the amount is that everyone knows it and sticks to it: a gift far above the limit puts everyone else in an awkward spot.

Popular variations

White Elephant. Everyone brings one wrapped gift, and players take turns picking a new one or stealing one that’s already been opened. Funny gifts work best here.

Yankee swap. Similar to White Elephant, but with a limit on how often a gift can be stolen, so the game ends sooner.

Long-distance Secret Santa. If the group isn’t in one place, draw names online and ship the gifts. Then leave a week of buffer for shipping before the exchange.

Making sure the gift lands

The biggest risk in Secret Santa is a gift nobody needs. It helps if everyone makes a short wishlist right after the draw: three to five ideas within the budget. Whoever gives reserves a wish without having to leave a name; the others only see that it’s taken.

How that works step by step is in the guide Secret Santa at work or in your club.

A wishlist for the occasion

A wishlist is ready right away, no password – for one of these occasions or any other.

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